Friday, July 10, 2015

10 Reasons Marriage has Ruined My Happy Single Life

  1. My best friend is no longer always available for me.
  2. I am now a lone ranger. I am by myself. I do almost everything alone.
  3. Eating alone. Dining by myself sucks so much. Eating and fulfilling conversation are a great combo which is a scarcity for me now.
  4. I have nobody on my level to talk to.
  5. It’s time to find another friend? That’s when it sucks. Now I do not easily let anyone into my life because I do not want to accommodate people anymore where I have to lower myself to their level. At this point of life, I no longer want to please people. I want to let in people that I am comfortable with and they are comfortable with me as well. It’s more fulfilling but honestly speaking, as long as I have lived, I only found a few. They are truly gems and hard to be found. And now I have to start the search again? Give me a break. 
  6. I start to question myself that whether my singledom is worth it or not. Because being alone, (in reality) bothers me and imagining myself exploring the world alone really scares me.
  7. People are bashing me for staying single and out of any relationship. It’s easy to counter all those cynical remarks because I know what I am doing. But deep down in my heart, it hurts because I really crave companionship but the environment that I’m living in will not get me the kind of relationship that I want. Being single is better than living married in my situation though it’s not easier. The question is, how am I going to make myself happy with the way I am living now? I blame my friend for getting married that she’s ruined my comfortable, hassle-free and fun single life.
  8. I am easily threatened by others getting married. The more people are getting married, the more I feel I am the weirdo. Though what I want and what others want in their life are totally different, my ideals and their ideals are different, I could not escape from feeling guilt. It’s like I am doing a disservice to my life. At this particular point, I blame the universe for not making people more like me.  
  9. I never met anyone in person who takes marriage as just part of normal human life as much as being single except one or two people, what more of taking it lightly. Most of single people I met desperately wanted to get married. It’s depressing. For me, they are toxic to my happy single life. There are no other constructive things in their mind other than when is their time to get hitched. Come on people, there’s more to life than being married.
  10. I got angry a lot when I saw men become total assholes and women become more stupid after marriage. This is the notion for the majority of couples that I saw. I saw men became more authoritative and feel superior because they are married. Not just onto their wives, but others as well, especially single ladies, and they made my life hell too, by imposing their conceited logic onto me. Their rationale is not rational anymore. Everything is all about their pride, but people would take it rational because it’s the normalcy. The wives, on the other hand, become quieter and defend their husband more than being rational and logical. The most important thing for them is to have the adoration of their husbands regardless how jerks the men have become. These women indirectly grew a monster inside their men's selves.  This situation disturbs the peace of my mind as being married insofar did not make people became more just, rational and logical, injustice and stupidity are things that I loathe. When more people become stupid or tyrant, it's not a pleasant scene to see.  Being married I saw had undoubtedly fed men’s ego and pride, lowered women’s intelligence and degraded them without them realizing it. I am not happy when I see people become stupid and tyrant because of marriage. In this situation, I blame the women. Had they become intelligent and smart literally and figuratively, courageous enough to do the ‘right thing’, and never let their insecurities overcome them, they would never let their men become jerks and men wouldn’t dare to become jerks.